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Hello I hope this post finds you well. How did your Year start off?  The title is simple Finding Myself What does that even mean? You probably are wondering; well How do I start? Where do I start? Well to be honest I have no answers for you. All I know is there is no right or wrong way to do that. While on this journey I have learned to give myself some grace. I love on myself, I am being more intentional, I am my worst critic!

Currently I am in school to be a psychiatrist. Somewhere along this journey I may make several STOPS!!! Just to name a few: School Social Worker, Guidance Counselor, Family Health Counselor, Music Therapist and the list goes on. Now I understand that it sounds like a lot to most but if I am being honest, these things make me happy I am doing most of these things on a Daily I just don’t have the degree! My New Career is helping me find myself. I will list a few things that are working for me. I would love for you guys to follow my journey into finding myself and I encourage you all to share your journey. My plans for this are to take you guys along with me on my psychology journey. I plan to share what I am learning and apply it to my own life. So, I am healing myself and hopefully you guys can heal and find yourself as well. I am sharing a few pictures that are a start to me being brave, bold and free. While I was taking pictures, it made me…well happy.

By me taking my time and putting forth an effort to add some make up helped boost my confidence. For me it is always the little things that make a great difference in your daily life. Wearing makeup on a DAILY is definitely not me. I had to find a balance because it started to feel like I had to do it I almost forgot who I was. It felt like I was turning into new character, almost like I was acting a part. Have you ever felt like this?

I had to find a balance so I stopped wearing the makeup and wigs to fall in love with ME my bare face, kinky hair, crooked toes, and a list of flaws that I have given myself. By doing this I learned that the character that I felt like I unlocked was also me just an amplified version. Somewhere just buried deep down in my subconscious. I had to learn that it is just different layers of me coming to the surface. It is true we evolve everyday we are never the same as were the year before the month before or even the day before. We just have to learn how to handle that transition. Some of us deal with that transition better than others. Learning to go with the flow is the best advice I can give to anyone. Life becomes a bit easier to handle when you fix what is in your control. I am entering a phase in my life where I no longer care what a person thinks or how they feel about me! I got tired of people projecting their insecurities on me and making me feel bad like I am wrong for simply being me!

When I catch myself caring about what others think about me I will always remind myself of who I AM! I will remember what my mom always said. “Walk with your head up and put your shoulders back” something so simple means so much to me! So, this is me Finding myself Again. Welcome Everyone!

Week 4 in my counseling class it teaches us about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) This is from a discussion question “CBT aims to help people become aware of when they make negative assumptions. Cognitive therapy helps people to develop alternative ways of thinking and behaving which aims to reduce their mental pain. For example, someone might only notice the negative things that happen to them and not notice the positive things. Carefully constructed exercises are used to help clients evaluate and change their thoughts and behaviors.

So, what this means, is that if we change the way we think we change the narrative! We really are the Author of our own life.

Here are few tips:

Give yourself Grace

Be Consistent with yourself

Do things that make you happy

If you don’t feel like makeup then don’t wear it. If you feel like dressing up do it. Go with the flow of how you feel I’ve learned when I do that I feel better. One foot in front of another a win is a win big or small!

Take care of you, Jae

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